{"id":140,"date":"2020-12-01T05:54:41","date_gmt":"2020-12-01T00:54:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/recovery\/?p=140"},"modified":"2020-12-06T20:12:00","modified_gmt":"2020-12-06T15:12:00","slug":"understanding-the-steps-step-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/?p=140","title":{"rendered":"Understanding the Steps: Step 4"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Y7vF6fzCj2A\">https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Y7vF6fzCj2A<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves<\/h2>\n<p>When completing the 4th step, feel free to use <a href=\"http:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/recovery\/?p=148\">this free 4th step inventory worksheet<\/a>.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>We want to find out exactly how, when and where our natural desires have warped us. We wish to look squarely at the unhappiness this has caused others and ourselves. By discovering what our emotional deformities are, we can move towards their correction. Without a willing and persistent effort to do this, there can be little sobriety or contentment for us. Without a searching and fearless moral inventory, most of us have found that the faith which really works in daily living is out of reach.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><em>Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 43<\/em><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Resentments AA speaker talking on the 4th step\" width=\"500\" height=\"375\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/6gruPAsKiqs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>In Step Four we call it a &#8220;moral&#8221; inventory because we compile a list of traits and behaviors that have transgressed our highest, or moral, values. We also inventory our &#8220;good&#8221; traits and the behaviors that represent them. In our life&#8217;s moral inventory the defects or dysfunctional behaviors might include some that once worked; some dysfunctional behaviors may have saved our lives as children, but they are now out-of-date, self-defeating, and cause us a great deal of trouble when we use them as adults.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><cite>\u00a0A Hunger for Healing, p. 61\u00a0<\/cite><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Topic: Step 4 (fear and sex) Speaker: Bob D\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/HzVRClLa0lM?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>When completing the 4th step, feel free to use <a href=\"http:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/recovery\/?p=148\">this free 4th step inventory worksheet<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in our selves which had been blocking us.&#8221; &#8211; Big Book pg. 64<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":141,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-140","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-12-steps","wpcat-3-id"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/140","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=140"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/140\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":290,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/140\/revisions\/290"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/141"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=140"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=140"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/endtherelapse.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=140"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}